Questions:
1. Should you?
2. Is it ever just about the sex?
3. Is it possible for it to be just about the sex?
4. Is it possible to have a CSA with your ex?
5. What are the pros of having sex with the ex?
6. We all know the cons.
Debate!!
What’s on my playlist?
Changed my mind – Maxwell
July 11, 2008 at 1:31 am
1. No
2. No
3. No
4. Never
5. One of you is either not over it or there is a hidden agenda
July 11, 2008 at 3:02 am
Maxwell changed your mind about the fact that sex with the ex is like kicking around an old tin scrap heap knowing it is a landmine and will blow your head off, literally and figuratively!
Would I go back to KT for the sex, hella yeah…would it resolve anything…nooo? Does this make CSA out of the question with T? Maad grey area.
July 11, 2008 at 5:44 am
1. No
2. It’s about proving you’ve still got that pulling power
3. Yes. If your relationship was mainly about the sex
4. What is CSA?
5. A brief “high” from knowing you still got it – but rapidly followed by all the “lows”. So no pros, really.
July 11, 2008 at 6:01 am
Sweetie, i don’t even TALK to my exes so…
July 11, 2008 at 6:11 am
1. Yes
2. Yes
3. yes
4. yes
5. Pros – he/she already knows how you like it
6. Cons always remain Cons!
July 11, 2008 at 6:11 am
@ Petesmama: CSA = Convenient Strokes Arrangement.
@all: it’s not the yes or no answers that I’m looking for, but the reasoning behind your answer, hence “Discuss”. Cheers.
July 11, 2008 at 6:34 am
1. Yes
2. Yes
3. Yes
4. Yes
5. U have been there…. unaelewa all the gears & knobs
6. Women always have an alterior motive making ALL of the above a VERY VERY VERY bad idea!
July 11, 2008 at 7:48 am
. Should you?
not a good idea
2. Is it ever just about the sex?
yes in some cases but not with an ex.
3. Is it possible for it to be just about the sex?
yes
4. Is it possible to have a CSA with your ex?
No
5. What are the pros of having sex with the ex?
They have been oriented and know the course matter well unless you split coz the strokes were wack!
July 11, 2008 at 8:05 am
I have no drama with my exes and still on civil terms so any horizontal will definately ignite memories which are best left in the past. A CSA can only be arranged where ther is no emotional baggage but then thats me.
July 11, 2008 at 8:33 am
It will depend on how the tag “Ex” came into being…Trust me, if she is the one who walked out on me, then i will surely shag the living lights out of her..Kinda punishment..If it was in my flat, then i will kick her out shouting at her to get a life..frankly am never nice to my ex girls…
If am the one who walked out on her, then i will make sure that she knows that it was just a pity fuck..yes jut that… it will never happen again
July 11, 2008 at 8:44 am
1. Should you? – No
2. Is it ever just about the sex? -No. Sex is never ever just about sex where I’m concerned
3. Is it possible for it to be just about the sex? – Never
4. Is it possible to have a CSA with your ex? – Never.
5. What are the pros of having sex with the ex? – Familiarity, no first time jitters, no self consciousness etc
July 11, 2008 at 8:50 am
oooh, sorry heres’s the discussion part:
1. Should you? – No. There are always tender feelings between all my exes and I, and I know sleeping with them would always bring about Qs such as, are we back together now, are you still in love with me, etc etc, which I don’t want to deal with.
2. Is it ever just about the sex? -No. Sex is never ever just about sex where I’m concerned, for me to have sex with anyone, feelings have to be involved. Sex is still special (still young and not jaded)
3. Is it possible for it to be just about the sex? – Never
4. Is it possible to have a CSA with your ex? – Never. I don’t believe in CSAs, we have to share something else, I can have a friend with benefits, but not with an Ex.
5. What are the pros of having sex with the ex? – Familiarity, no first time jitters, no self consciousness etc. He’s seen you in the morn, so you’re easy, you already have your rhythm so no suprises etc
July 11, 2008 at 11:11 am
i would go for simply. find new fields to plough.
July 11, 2008 at 12:08 pm
1. Hell No!
2. Nope, there is history there
3. No
4. No
5. The know they lay of the land and you know what to do with them, no
awkwardness
6. Yes we all know the cons. I smashed an ex like a year or so back. According to here that meant there was a possiblity things could work and she started getting soppy and calling me sana. It was more than just an away game for her. From that day I have never indulged again, just wasnt worth the drama.
July 11, 2008 at 12:55 pm
1. depends,are u high on crystal meth or not?
2.NO…don’t kid urself
3.refer to 2
4.Hell no!!!
5. and now for the interesting bit…there are only 2 things that when blinded by beer u’d be able to feel around and get a sense of familiarity…ur house and ur ex!!!!
July 11, 2008 at 1:34 pm
1 to 4 HELL NO! Assuming you’re ex is someone you actually had feelings for, there’s no way it can be just a shag. The cons are about a billion and one. The pro’s: you both know how to turn each other on and the things you both like, so the sex will definitely be fantastic. But after the morning after, you’ll wonder why you bothered!
July 11, 2008 at 5:15 pm
Yes on most of the questions.
see I am ok with doing it and then letting her deal with the drama…me i just sit back and pretend I don’t understand there would be complications
July 11, 2008 at 6:01 pm
yes if both of you are with other people
July 12, 2008 at 12:44 pm
never! How do you throw up and then go back to examine the contents?
Unless its make up sex. A CSA cant work coz there will always be one party with deep emotional hangups, then they start asking ‘what went wrong with us?’ ‘cant we get back together?’ and many other spaced out questions. But if you love lying to yourself, i would say, Yes, it will just be about the strokes for both of you.
a pro is that you get to re-live the blissful, nolstalgic, good old days (if the strokes were good), untill the foolish questions “about us” snap you back to the reality that sex with the ex is a no-no.
You can only play cat and mouse games (as described by 3n) for so long.
July 13, 2008 at 7:36 am
I would go for YES. I have a CSA with an ex- and it works perfectly for me…we never did work out on the whole feelings side of it but the sex…..damn!
Then again, it helps that we are both workaholics…
July 14, 2008 at 7:54 am
I believe that if one door closes, a new door opens. When done with an Ex, thats it, going back on whatever terms is just closing on other numerous opportunities. I would rather put my energies in getting someone else. Its like moving out of a house in Langata to another in Riara but always going back there coz it had nice tiles on the kitchen flloor… What did I say, anyway, its a bad idea, there is opportunities for all you desire elsewhere.
July 14, 2008 at 9:38 am
Absolutely not.
Even if both of you say its only sex, the fact that you can go back means some emotional hangover.
Surely there are many others you can go to with the thrill of fresh discovery.
Don’t do it
July 14, 2008 at 3:49 pm
IF the sex was amazing n it hasnt been the same then you have to have sex with the ex?!
Of course it cn just be sex/CSA… you have to clearly know the boundaries…
July 14, 2008 at 3:59 pm
HELL NO TO ALL OF THE ABOVE. That is one territory that is best left alone. Emotions always take over no matter what. There is a reason why the person is LABELLED an EX.
July 14, 2008 at 4:11 pm
1. Hell naw!!
2. But of course, you wanna still if you still got it over them.
3. Nope, feelings will get in the way.
4. Nope (check 3 above).
5. You both know each others hot spots and you can prelay your latest moves.
But why would i wanna be with my ex. There is a reason he is an EXit… but that’s just me
July 17, 2008 at 5:47 am
1. Depends with circumstances
2. Mostly yes
3. People catch feelings…yet again
4. See 3
5. Safe sex with the ex is the best!!!
6. Ever had ur new lexus scratched…windows broken!!! thats LOVE
** dont u think its time u visited my blog!!
July 23, 2008 at 9:13 pm
On my way down here to comment,i read up various comments and two said exactly what i had in mind and wanted to comment.i thus wont repeat myself.its bs and .99.the ex is a no-go-zone where sex and emotions are involved.ex means former,previous as in,in the past.why go there to exhume?its bound to reek major the next morning and it wont be worth it.when u start hearing ‘may i ask u a question…?’ , ‘if i was to ask u a question,would u be frank with me…?’ such anticlimaxes aint worth the ex factor sex.dat’s me.
August 11, 2008 at 7:49 am
AS LONG as everything can be ok, men…i wouldn’t mind, but kwani wameisha kwa market?the prospect of going back makes me feel like i have lost it out there and cant do without her.i’d rather move on and slay another.